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Take This: Santa’s Holiday Survival Guide for Brains

Take This: Santa’s Holiday Survival Guide for Brains

Hello Brains and Hearts! I suspect you know who I am, but you might not know why I’m here. First of all, people get a lot of messages about the holidays and how they “should be.” These messages, they may come from TV, movies, other people, songs, or even YouTube channels. [Theme Music] We get the idea that if things don’t happen exactly like we expect them then we’re doing them wrong and we should feel guilty. No-ho-ho-ho-ho! Your life isn’t a movie or a greeting card and you shouldn’t feel guilty if it doesn’t turn out the way you expect. On that note, Santa has a bit of a bone to pick with Norman Rockwell. I don’t dance around the workshop with a bottle of Cola. No-ho-ho-ho-ho-ho-ho! Santa likes macchiatos. and panforte, and I always make sure to stop in Tuscany whenever I’m flying over the Mediterranean delivering gifts. The point is that holding yourself to the “perfect holiday” can hurt you if you’re too strict about it. It’s one thing to have a goal in mind, but it’s another thing to think that you’re a failure if something goes wrong. Some people have complicated histories with their families, their childhoods, or any number of other things, and that can make the holidays a complicated time. Close relationships can be stressful no matter who they are. I love Mrs. Claus. I know she loves me. The elves are all wonderful! But we don’t always get along. We’re the only people in the North Pole, and we are there all the time except for our twice a year workshop vacation to [bleep] We sometimes get on each other’s nerves and that’s okay because we always work things out, and I know we will. Santa’s friends that Take This – a spectacular mental health organization and all of whom are on Santa’s nice list – tell him that there’s no one way you should feel. Emotions are tricky, and none of them are wrong but for some people, the stress around their biological families is just too much, and it’s unhealthy. One amazing resource is our chosen families. Our chosen families are the ones who accept us and love us for who we are. These might be your biological family; they might not be. Reaching out to them with a quick text or phone call can be an amazing source of support (so can being around them). Some of the best people on Santa’s nice list choose to spend their holidays around their chosen families. Another tip is to decide ahead of time how much time you’re going to spend at holiday gatherings. You don’t have to spend the whole time, No-ho-ho-ho-ho! It’s okay to spend an hour or two and then say goodbye. And underestimate your limits. It’s always better to have extra energy than wear yourself out. And Santa has never been to a party where it wasn’t okay to step out for a few minutes to find a little peace or quiet. Bathrooms are also a great place to take a break for a few minutes. It’s also okay to find a buddy at a party who you trust and who brings you comfort and joy. It’s okay to ask permission to spend the party with them because there’s lots of people there. [sigh] and peopling is hard sometimes. If a person wants to talk about something that you don’t want to talk about, it’s okay to say “no, I don’t want to talk about that.” Or, better yet, give them the topic you would like to talk about. “Politics is boooring” “Have you seen that TV show, The Good Place?” It’s all about who’s been naughty and who’s been nice. [ding] If you’re curious to learn more tips about taking care of your emotional and mental health, make sure to go to the website Now, Santa needs to go prepare for the big delivery! Thank you to the very special Brains and Hearts that make this channel possible. You’ll have something special in your stocking this year. Now help me give Jessica the present she asked for Like, subscribe, jingle the bells, and go find a million other people, and tell them to do the same. Bye, Brains and Hearts, and have a Merry Christmas! Ho-ho-ho-ho-ho!

79 thoughts on “Take This: Santa’s Holiday Survival Guide for Brains”

  1. I've only watched 1 minute but so far this is so comforting!!

    I watched the whole video and yesss!! Implement those heart-felt lessons

  2. Santa!! Merry Christmas Santa! This Christmas I’ll be with my chosen family for sure! My family I live with (mom and my sorta step-dad but in this case he’s the greatest dad ever), and I’ll be texting my great friends, who are also all my chosen family! Merry Christmas!!

  3. Hey Jessica! My name's also Jess! Merry Christmas from South Africa! Sending lots of love your way! Love your videos, please never stop making them!!

  4. Thank you thank you thank you! I Sooooo needed this as my parents are toxic and in denial of their corrosiveness. Happy holidays ya'll!! Love yall brains and hearts!

  5. Thanks Santa. I also carry my phone charger and earphones so I can rest my brain when its too much and I get all peopled out.

    But…… I get a little overwhelmed and my room looks like a mess when I have a bunch of presents, and I just want to use ALL OF THEM

  7. Thank you! I needed this. ATM I'm upstairs alone to have a break from the family because I am overwhelmed. Too many noises and things and my emotional energy is running out.
    I have a burnout and getting better everyday. Needing to take a break feels a bit like a setback. But it's ok. I hope.
    Merry Christmas

  8. Christmas is over already! 🙁
    If only time travel were possible… then people could visit anywhere in the world where it still might be Christmas! 🎄🎄🎄😆
    Merry Christmas Jess and How to ADHD team!
    Oh and also to the brains and hearts!

  9. Holidays are hard. I always think that I have to please everyone. People around me don't understand that, but they want me to be there with them. At the end of the day I don't want to go anywhere. This year I chose to not go anywhere. Just to think about it as an ordinary day, so I wouldn't be so stress. Thank you for the video. Merry Christmas!

  10. Anyone else feel like a child once again watching this. Like when a psychologist or someone tells you it's okay to feel certain ways.. which I usually zoned out of.

  11. AWWWWW this was soooooooo good!!! 😋
    I feel like my biological family doesn’t understand my ADHD. They always (and I mean ALWAYS) comment on how much I talk at the table (even though I have trouble not talking) and my interruptions (even though I’m trying so hard not to do that). My ADHD can get in the way. I’m trying not to do that and they know the reason but they keep bringing it up all the time. It makes me really sad cause I’m trying so hard to control myself and have a nice conversation with them. 🙁
    What Santa said is definitely something to keep in mind for next year.

  12. The most stressful part of any Christmas in my lifetime, is after lunch, when I hear l the phrase "I'm stuffed, I think I'll take a nap"…. In my head I'm throwing a tantrum, "but whhhhyyyy, how borrringg, naps are bad for sleep I swear, play with me"

    As a mid 30 year old I've tailored that outward expression into the look of bewilderment and disgust

  13. I shamelessly hid in another room on Christmas Eve at a party when it came time for the "game" they do every year. I made it clear, politely, I wasn't participating this year, huddled with a blanket on a couch in the other living room, and watched youtube videos.

  14. Thank you Santa and thank you Jessica. Hope you both had a wonderful Christmas. I love Santa's suggestion of looking up when you need a refresher. For those members of the Australian Chapter (or for those visiting Oz) can I suggest Beyond Blue, Head Space for our younger members or Life Line at They're all really good general anxiety / depression and suicide prevention organisations. Hope you all have a great Christmas and New Year.

  15. Ooookaaaaay this was a bit much coming from Santa. I would have preferred that it come from herself not from somebody else. It wasn't that it came from Santa that I felt was a bit much. The message is very good and I'm glad that he said it. But I would have preferred that it come from her. Not from somebody else. I would use her name but I don't know who she is other than just her YouTube. I love what she has to say and since this is HER YouTube I like watching her YouTube videos as long as she is a part of it. If she said all this as Mrs Clause with Santa sitting there with her then that would have been much better. I think next year she needs to recreate this and make Santa in the background or the sidelines and use her OWN voice instead.

  16. Hello community! I hope you all had a merry Christmas. I have for about a year now believed that I may have Add or Adhd. My parents though do not believe in mental illness issues. I have told both of them that I believe I may have it and they both have dismissed me. At this point, it has been a hindrance and I'm going somewhere this summer I could use tips for managing my mind to be successful. I am not sure what to do, I've asked my counselors, the school nurse and they all lead to my parents who don't believe in these things. If you have any tips for me getting a diagnosis to either agree with what I've thought or dispell these ideas please respond.

  17. Any plans on making a video on overcoming executive dysfunction? I know that's kind of the whole idea of the channel, but some tips on actually getting up and doing stuff would be awesome.

  18. best christmas i ever had was telling dad i was going to mom, then telling mom i was going to dad. then staying home alone, doing nothing. microwave a pizza – GREAT SUCCESS

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